IF YOU WANT TO WALK FAR WALK TOGETHER

 IF YOU WANT TO WALK FAR WALK TOGETHER

Rich relationships translate to a rich life. Even bolder to say that pure relationships heals the soul.

There was a time in my short life span I had given up on relationships . I wanted to be a hermit. I did for short while. It’s more  peaceful, I thought. Now my train of thought has changed and so has my views.

PURE RELATIONSHIPS are not only good but IMPORTANT. They bring peace in the chaos. They calm the mind when it’s in confusion.They show you the giants in your head aren’t larger than you.They make achievements become milestones. They make simple moments become great memories and life a little more interesting.

“And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”

Colossians 3:14 NIV

When I wanted to let go of all relationships, I noticed what got me there was that I had never experienced genuine relationships prior to that. All friends I made were busy waiting for my downfall, and I waited for theirs. It was a constant competition. I hadn’t developed a good relationship with my family either because I didn’t understand what unconditional love was.

 I was constantly trying  prove myself to everyone around me so as to gain  all these “relationships”. And frankly it was tiring. Why was I trying so hard? 

The constant need for approval become like a drug. The highs were high enough that I didn’t recognise myself through all the “Praises” I was given and the lows we too low it felt like I was suffocating unless I made another achievement. I looked at everyone with a tinge of hatred cause I thought “surely you’re only associating with me because of all the praises, if they are stripped from me you’ll despise me.” 

I felt ugly on the inside, I was but that was only because knew no better.

“The righteous should choose his friends carefully, For the way of the wicked leads them astray.”

Proverbs 12:26 NKJV

Once I gave my life to Christ. I received what I desperately needed “unconditional love”.

“The Lord appeared to us in the past, saying: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.”

Jeremiah 31:3 NIV

 Only then did I know what friendship was. I began recognising it from my family and a few other people. They gave themselves to me and I to them. It’s takes work but oh what a beauty I found. Love heals. In all forms. 

Life is not a bed of roses. Never has been never will be. But it does carry the beauty of the roses. And rich friendships could show you that, regardless of where you are in life. No man is an island, no man will ever be. Life has too many hardships and we translate them to look like sinking ships.Friends make them look like a storm you can get through. Sometimes we need them to remind us what we already know is true about ourselves. We don’t need people to fix our  situations for us but people to help us endure, to remind us who we are. And that’s why it’s also important to share similar belief systems. Because at the end of the day you are who you send your time with. 

“Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.””

1 Corinthians 15:33 NIV

“As iron sharpens iron, So a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.”

Proverbs 27:17 NKJV

“Two are better than one, Because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, For he has no one to help him up.”

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 NIV

If you want to go fast, walk alone but if you want to walk far, walk together. Relationships help you endure the journey ahead. 

 

“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.”

1 Thessalonians 5:11 NIV

We also have to remember that we need to be true ourselves.  Be there for others, love others just as Christ loves you. Who knows, you might teach someone what unconditional love is.

““Anyone who withholds kindness from a friend forsakes the fear of the Almighty.”

Job 6:14 NIV

So no, being a hermit wasn’t more peaceful. I just had the wrong relationship prior. Having  genuine relationships is more peaceful.